I’ll be honest, it’s been more difficult to go on dates after having a baby than I expected. We don’t live that close to family, and I was super reluctant to leave Charley with anyone for a long time. One of my best friends watched him for the first time back in November so we could go grab dinner and a movie for our anniversary. He was only 2 months old! I looked around and even interviewed a few people, but due to conflicting schedules, it didn’t work out. Which is fine, because we’ve got a system down now: I work the weekends and Ben watches Charley, so they get some great daddy/son bonding time! 😉 My friend is still our go to babysitter and honestly, I can’t think of anyone else I’d let watch him! To be fair, it’s hard to compete with her: she’s so good with Charley (& he loves her!), I trust her 100%, aaaand she’s a pediatric nurse…. she’s basically an 11/10! 😉
All that being said, it is SO important to get out for date nights after having a baby. It doesn’t have to be anything super fancy, either. The other night Ben & I grabbed dinner at Chick-fil-a then picked up some drugstore candy and went to a super cheap movie theater. And you know what? We had a blast! We felt like we were in college again. And that’s what it’s really all about – reconnecting. It’s so easy to get caught up in the idea that you must go on fancy, expensive dates but the amount of money you spend or don’t spend has nothing to do with whether or not you reconnect as a couple. In my opinion, a good, successful date is one where Ben & I can connect emotionally and spend quality time together without Charley (as sweet and amazing as he is) competing for our attention.
Raising a tiny human is hard work & I think the exhaustion that comes with that can distract us from being intentional with our spouse. Even if you can’t get out of the house for a date night, maybe set aside some time to do something together after they go to bed. Create your own movie theater experience at home: pop some popcorn, get some treats and have a movie already picked out that both of you are interested in watching (sometimes it takes FOREVER to find something you both want to watch, so by that point, you’ve wasted like 30 minutes searching for something to watch!). Light some candles, get some oils out and give them a nice neck/back massage! Or eat a late dinner, put on some tunes, pour yourselves some wine and actually sit at the table together! 😉 Something other than mindlessly watching TV!! Just do something that shows your spouse you care and you want to focus on your relationship.
For our next date night (out of the house!;)), I’ve found the most adorable floral tunic. It’s nursing friendly, which is super helpful. It’s been hard for me to dress postpartum because my cute options are limited. Sometimes I’m about to put something on, then I think about how difficult it would be to nurse in, and I just go back to the 5 items I usually rotate between!! I paired this with booties for a simple summer outfit, and can see myself wearing some skinny jeans & hat with it come fall. It’s definitely a great transitional piece! Not only does it transition well from summer to fall, but it transitions well from pregnancy to postpartum. It may be a bit short to wear on its own as your bump grows, but you can easily pair it with some skinny jeans for a super cute look.
What have been some of your favorite items that have transitioned well from pregnancy to postpartum?! Please share!